10/29/2019 - What do I WANNA DO?
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Two roads diverged in a wood and I said, “have fun with that one, Robert Frost - I’m not here to weed-whack and I did NOT pack my machete.”
Hi, this is Coach Sarah, and this is the Morning Mantra.
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Hi, my name is Sarah Axelrod. I'm a run coach and a lover of poetry, and a person who cares about your well-being. You don't have to be an athlete to be #coachedandloved, and if you need an anchor to hold onto as you move through a tough situation, you've come to the right place.
Today’s mantra is - what do I wanna do?
Can you believe it’s been a YEAR since Coach MK released this iconic mantra? And Imma live in the WANNADO is at the core of what we do and how we do it at the Fitness Protection Program. So often, the questions our clients ask us about how to handle the challenging parts of their training come down to a surprisingly basic question. “What do you wanna do?” This was the mantra that made me start to notice every time I used the word “should” in a sentence. This was the mantra that made me connect some of the things I was striving for to a genuine want, and many of the things I was striving for to a pressing “should.” And I am proud to say that one year later, I have deep-sixed a whole lot of shoulds. Some of them were clear, which is not to say they were easy - I had just started my temp job at the Harvard Language Center, and people there were asking me on a near-constant basis whether I would apply for the permanent job, whether I would apply for this or that low-level position in Italian. Some of them even said, “you really should.”
Some of them were less clear. One miscarriage, and I wanted to try again. Two miscarriages, and...I did not. “But you’re still young,” so many people said. “You shouldn’t give up yet!”
It was a fraught time. But asking myself what I actually wanted, divorced completely of any sense of should, was the essential act, to which I returned over and over again.
Asking yourself “what do I wanna do” is an act of faith - faith in yourself. Faith that you know yourself well enough and you love yourself generously enough to trust that your gut is GREAT.
The season that approaches is full of traditions and obligations (and get excited for some Shady Bitch lessons from Coach MK to get you through them). Some are joyous - an obligation is not by definition onerous. And I know that it’s impossible for any single one of us to opt out of every single thing you do not wanna do. But. It is STILL worthwhile to cultivate a sense of clarity on why you do the things you do. Some of them are wannados. Some of them are havetodos. But the should-dos? You deserve to shine a light on them and ask yourself honestly what they are doing there. And THE most clarifying question you can ask whenEVER you are faced with the shame of the should is “What do I WANNA do?” And then, listen to the answer.
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